Become who you might have been.

There's something about being a Gen-X'er right now. It feels like the forgotten generation. We're not the cool Millennials, we're not the Boomers. We're not preparing for our first real jobs or for retirement. We are smack dab in the middle of life. There's not much research on us, and not a lot of lifestyle websites devoted to ... our lifestyles. We're invisible for the most part. But we're also over-scheduled, over-worked, over-stressed, just trying to get through this phase of life intact.

In Life Reimagined: The Science, Art, and Opportunity of Midlife, Barbara Bradley said midlife is

the unremitting daily-ness of work, the minor but scary health issues, the unpalatable fear that this is as good as it gets and that life slopes downward from here.

Life in midlife is full of ups and downs, heartbreak and joy, adventures and calm. But we're not always honest (even with our selves) about the realities we face, the feelings we have, the challenges of just getting through the day. Especially in our highly curated (#soblessed) world, where everyone is having destination weddings and working their dream jobs.

That's what this site is all about. Sharing the reality of life as a Gen-X'er (or at least a Midwestern, white, female, cisgendered, liberal Gen-X'er). 

On this site, we'll explore the topics of personal discovery, well-being, health, and motivation - all from my and my guest blogger's Gen-X perspective. It's all about adopting the perspective of my favorite George Eliot quote.

It’s never too late to be what you might have been.


I'm Jacki, It's Nice to meet you

In America, when we first meet someone, we ask “So what do you do?”

Over the years, I’ve held many titles: Receptionist, Museum Educator, Programs Director, Administrative Assistant, IT Security Technician, Program Assistant, Personal Trainer, Wellness Coach (some of these at the same time).

But none of them really says much about me.

Those titles don’t tell you…

  • what keeps me up at night (financial worries)
  • what makes me squeal (hearing my son will be reading Of Mice and Men in school)
  • what makes me smile (hiking in the woods with my dogs)
  • what drives me (cultivating learning)

Here’s what I can tell you.



Mother * Partner * Daughter * Sister * Aunt * Teacher * Student * Reader * Introvert * Geek * Scholar * Feminist * Liberal



Independence * Growth * Discovery * Trust


I Crave

Solitude * Mountain Hikes * Ocean Waves * Deep Connections * Brownies w/ Whipped Cream Topping



My Personality - INTJ

imaginative yet decisive *ambitious yet private *insanely curious *starry-eyed idealist and bitter cynic *everything is open to examination

My Kryptonite

social conventions* rules for the sake of rules * status quo * emotions * large parties * the superficial

My Superpowers

observant, assured, & unruffled * dignified, discreet, & well-informed * bring stability & calm * deliver with consistency

She read books as one would breathe air, to fill up and live.
— Annie Dillard